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A Day in the Life of a Copywriter

February 13, 2020 By Caroline Peterson

Another flight. Another airport lounge. Another day of copywriting.
(Another margarita.)

Don’t know what a copywriter is? Take a look.

As my business has grown, I’ve needed to adjust my sails and change what my day looks like to maximize quality writing time. When you run a business, there’s quite a bit that goes on beyond the task of actually putting pen to paper (or fingers to keys in this instance).

I spend a lot of time on the background stuff, like the dreaded admin work: creating invoices, making sure they’re paid, marketing my business, designing ads, editing photos, creating social media posts, responding to emails and reaching out to clients that have gone MIA.

With all that admin nonsense on the docket—which is still incredibly imperative—it’s critical to make sure I actually get to the business of writing. Thankfully, with a flexible schedule, if I’m feeling more creative at 9pm vs 9am, I can write then.

But, keeping a regular routine is important for my sanity, as well as my clients. They need to know when I’m in the office and when they can expect a response from me. Pro Tip: This does not mean you need to respond to midnight emails. Boundaries are incredibly important in business too.

Set the standard. Let them know you aren’t available for hire at 2am on Saturday. (Wait, that sounds like I’m a hooker.) I make sure my clients have at least a 2 weeks heads up when I’m out of the office on vacation. Do I need to give them the 411? Nah. The work would be done before I left the office, but it’s a nice thing called professionalism.

How many hours employees put in during the day is always a topic of contention, especially depending on which generation you’re from.

I worked at an ad agency, as a salaried employee, that still required me to clock in and clock out for the day, as well as lunch. It was used as a way to quickly look at the hours someone put in and compare it to others. The kicker was the people who “stayed late” were often watching YouTube or doing their own personal online errands. The employees who put their head down and banged out work, came in on time and left on time were looked at as not putting in enough time. Then those work horses were saddled with more work because they clearly didn’t have enough to do if they were leaving on time. It was garbage.

Did you know that most employees who work 8-hour days only complete about 3 hours of work? That’s right, you’re only productive for about 3 hours a day! I’m not surprised. Keeping people chained to their desks is a great way to portray a busy, collaborative facade, not necessarily a productive one.

Are there legitimate late nights and really long days and weeks? Absolutely. Those are part of the territory in marketing. But an employee’s worth is not tied to the time they clock out and it certainly does not represent their productivity.

So, if you were to ask me years ago that my day would look this flexible and productive, I would have belly-snort-laughed at you.

My regular routine, day-in-the-life-of-this-copywriter-rockstar, looks a bit like this.

Mornings

Depending on my gym classes, I’ll be up between 6:30am – 7:45am. Ideally, I’d like to be up at the same time every day regardless of my gym schedule. (I’m working on this adult thing, okay?)

I do circuit training, yoga, run or walk depending how my achilles tendon is behaving that day. From there, I come home, make some coffee and sit down to look at my day. I use the Game Changer notebook and—pun intended—it’s been a game changer. I write down my top 3 priorities to get done and bang them out.

I’m in my office between 9-10 to check emails and get the admin crapadoodaloo done. (That’s a technical term.) After that, it’s diving into the process of writing for clients. Depending how much needs to be done, this could last the rest of the morning or day.

I try to schedule any personal appointments for the mornings too, which means I get it out of the way and can head back in the office soon.

Afternoons

Afternoons are set for meetings. I block off mornings on my shared client schedule to ensure that I have carved out enough time for writing. This means, when clients schedule they can choose between 1pm-5pm each day, depending on availability. If a client wants a morning meeting, I’ll happily join, but setting this standard has given me control of my workday.

Depending on the client projects I’m working on, this is also when I try to do the creative work for my own business: social media posts, editing images, setting up business goals, writing blogs and reaching out to potential clients. Working with other people around during this creative time is key! I’m lucky I found the Write Like a MOFO group—the doors for membership are open NOW—to keep me on task. (see more below)

Knowing that I’ve taken care of my client projects first-thing, means I’m confident to get my own business work done at this point. It’s been a relief.

Afternoons are also meant for errands, so I can happily avoid the 5pm-6pm bum-rush to grocery stores and Costco. Pro Tip: I’ve found 2pm on Wednesdays is the best time to go to Costco, based on my unscientific study of going there way too much.

Evenings

My evenings are the most flexible. They can take shape in a variety fo different ways:

  • Make a dinner for the hubster and myself if he’s actually home.
  • Meet friends for a quick bite.
  • If I didn’t get to the gym like I had hoped in the morning because my lazy butt didn’t get out of bed, I’ll head to the gym in the evening.

In a previous life, I thought the evenings were a time that I got my best writing done. But, if I were to examine it honestly, that was only because I put it off for so long, that I only had the evening to write, so I cranked something out.

If I set up my day properly, I leave the rest of the evening for awful reality television or creative personal projects not related to my business. Or, real talk, just sitting staring at the latest episode of the Great British Bake-off. If it’s an extra busy work week, I’ll do some more writing or work after 6pm. That’s the beauty of owning your own biz and schedule: flexibility.

Caveats:

Cowriting sessions – I joined Write Like a Mofo cowriting sessions and haven’t looked back. It holds me accountable and lets me see other humans (virtually) during the day. These sessions can being during the mornings or afternoons, so depending on that, I’ll readjust my schedule to accommodate.

Family – If I’m visiting family, this schedule doesn’t look the same. If my husband is struggling, I take more time to support him.

Travel – When I’m traveling, I really am good at maintaining the same hours regardless of the timezone I’m in. It was actually fairly easy while I was in Japan. Crazy, right? Ah, time travel is fun. I’m a planner, so I usually have the work that needs to be done mapped out and finished before I hit publish or make the deadline. Flexibility is key and I get some hours in during the morning and also while going to bed next to my sleeping husband.


Like everyone, my days can be a juggling act. I find that the flexibility of running my own copywriting business, can mean I don’t feel like I’m getting it all done. See what Corporate America has done? If I’m not tied to my office, I feel like I’m not productive and that’s so inaccurate.

I’ve accomplished a lot in the first years of my businesses!

Here’s to many more years of writing my heart out and 2pm Costco runs.


Need a some personality in your messaging? Book me as your writer.

Filed Under: Copywriting

Who are Not Your Average Gals?

February 2, 2020 By Caroline Peterson

Someone who isn’t average.

Done.

But, perhaps it’s a bit more than that. Maybe you’ll even discover you’re a Not Your Average Gal?

A brief preface for those new readers amongst us. Hey—welcome, you! I started this website as a way to show off videos I produced. It was originally named Caroline Made This. Cheeky, right? As I added more blog posts, gained more readers and settled into my life as a copywriter, a rebrand was necessary.

Not Your Average Gal just felt more…me.

For most of my teenage and adult years, I had these subtle, and often not-so-subtle reminders from unsolicited opinions, that I was a bit different. I seemed to choose a path that was far from the standard guidebook to life. Sometimes it was an active decision. Sometimes it was subconsciously. Sometimes it was done while waving my middle finger.

Now, don’t let me paint an inaccurate picture. I was also a fierce rule follower, wanting to please the people who were guiding me in life. I was a good kid, great student and active in so many activities it would make your head spin. But, I wanted more.

I didn’t fit a mold. I wanted to do things myself.

In fact, my dad told a story at our wedding about how I refused to let him help me once he took my training wheels off my bike. I knew I could do it and I wanted to do it alone. He tells it better than me, but I basically shot out of the driveway, down the street like I had been a BMX biker all my life. I like to imagine I was waving the peace sign while I was doing it…

But I always had this urge to do more, see more, be more.

I needed to travel more, as in, felt it in my soul and kept a vision board of the places I’d travel. I didn’t have dreams of settling down. I laughed (ironically) at the “Live, Laugh, Love” tossed on paintings at Bed, Bath and Beyond and manufactured for the masses.

I knew I wasn’t alone. So many in this community felt the same.

Hence, Not Your Average Gal was born during my rebrand. What can I say? I like a good play on words. #copywriterproblems

Since then, it’s been a fun mix of community responses. The majority of which are positive and reaffirm we all aren’t quite so alone in this world. Something that is so desperately needed now in this divisive, often exclusionary life.

I’ve been developing a new feature on Not Your Average Gal for over a year. It’s one that I’ve been mulling around in the back of my brain for awhile, but never felt confident enough to proceed. Then I realized, what the hell? I’m Not Your Average Gal—get it done, chica!

Essentially, and without giving away too much before the big reveal, it will be all about Not Your Average Gals in our community. (Yes, just like aliens, you never know the ones that live amongst us. Dun, dun, dun.)

So, perhaps now is as good a time as ever to give you the lowdown on what the frick a Not Your Average Gal is.

In a broad definition, Not Your Average Gal deviates in some way, shape or form, from the formal standards society dictates to the masses.

This can look like many variations. In fact, I’ve broken down a few here, so you can take a quick glance and see that Not Your Average Gals are a heck of a lot more alike than what society wants you to believe.

Not Your Average Gals :

Have bodies with bumps, bellies, bulges or badass biceps. I have completed an Olympic-distance triathlon, countless 5K and 10Ks and even run 3 half-marathons and yet, I’ve been called everything from fat to big-boned to Caroline McChubberson to chubby girl to La Gordita more times than I can count. It’s total crap. This body has done some amazing things and I’m not going to hide it because it doesn’t fit some bullshit societal norm that somehow makes you uncomfortable.

Feel the same? Then you’re a Not Your Average Gal.

Do things in your own damn time. While a majority of our friends were getting married, the now hubster and I were setting up careers that aligned with life goals, including traveling the world. If had a nickel for every time we were asked when he was going to make “an honest woman” out of me, we’d have been able to pay for our wedding by the time we got married. Side note: If you ever ask that question to anyone in my presence, expect a full-throttle throat punch from me. We were together nearly 6 years and went to 27 weddings before had our own.

Feel the same? Then you’re a Not Your Average Gal.

Opt out of the status-quo. I can’t watch House Hunters as much anymore. Not because I hate real estate. (Au contraire. You should see my Pinterest boards, kiddos.) It’s because of the way people whine about wanting the the same exact thing everyone else has with no thought of what they personally like. We end up in these dull, stainless-steel-appliance-filled houses with gray or beige walls and his and her sinks. If it’s something that everyone else does, or is typically the standard because that’s how we’ve always done it—insert shoulder shrug here—consider me out!

Feel the same? Then you’re a Not Your Average Gal.

Have an insatiable curiosity and open mind. A friend of mine recently reminded me of how I defended her in elementary school when she was the new kid. I’ll be honest, I vaguely remember this. But it makes sense because what I do remember is how kind she was. Sure, maybe she looked different than me. But, I was the new kid at school once and I knew how much it sucked. More than anything, our differences made me curious. Curious to learn more about her culture and religion. What happened in the years to follow was feeding a curiosity that bridged the gap between tolerance and understanding. Psst. It’s called respect.

Feel the same? Then you’re a Not Your Average Gal.

Take a different path than the suburban American Dream. Contrary to the constant reminder of my age from the media, in-laws and that rando relative I haven’t seen in nearly a decade, we still haven’t had kids. Will we? Maybe. Is it any of your biznass? NOPE. Sidebar here: genuinely, curiously asking and accusatorially asking, as in, “your eggs are going to shrivel up, when are you having kids?” are two different things entirely. If you’ve been there, you know what I mean. To really shake things up, I also kept my last name because, well, quite simply, I wanted to. Oh, baby. Ruffling some feathers.

Feel the same? Then you’re a Not Your Average Gal.

To be clear, one does not need to follow all of the above or fall into a sex or gender to be a Not Your Average Gal. How lame would that be? If you find yourself feeling like anything above, regardless of your sex or gender, then guess what you lucky dog, you’re a Not Your Average Gal!

Welcome to the NYAG community, guys, gals, geeks and fellow freaks. We’re all in this together and I couldn’t be happier to have you here.

Filed Under: Musings, Soapbox

39 Things I’m not Doing Before 40

January 14, 2020 By Caroline Peterson

It’s my birthday this week and I’m celebrating in style—in Hawaii. Imagine me, a mai tai and terrible hula skills. You’re welcome for that image.

Turning 39 has me reflecting on things, especially how I was feeling 10 years ago when I turned 29. I anxiously awaited 30. I was super pumped to turn 30. I was ready to leave my twenties behind and throw duces at any drama that came around me, “I’m in my thirties now, I’m too mature for this.”

Frankly, 40 is feeling very much the same. I’m looking forward to it for the most part because I’m grateful for my 39 years swirling around this planet.

I know 40 sounds scary, I would be lying if I said it didn’t make me squirm a little bit. But, I will not—you hear me?—will not be one of those people who proclaims life is over, we’re old and suddenly cue to the mid-life crisis. People know how much shitting on your own age screams of insecurity, right?

Many people come up with lists of the things they want to do before a certain age and I’ve participated in that previously. This year though, feeling the love of life and new transitions, I want to do things differently.

So in honor of my 39th birthday, here’s a list of 39 things I’m not going to do before I turn 40.

  1. Be ashamed I’m 39.
  2. Provide long explanations.
  3. Feel bad about cutting out the toxic BS.
  4. Wear uncomfortable jeans.
  5. Hang around unmotivated, negative Nancys.
  6. Feel crappy about unproductive days. We all have them, it’s how we bounce back that matters. Oh and we’re allowed a break!
  7. Be a resident doctor’s wife. I’ll be a full-fledged docta’s wife now!
  8. Believe liars change their stripes.
  9. Buy the cheaper drinks. Saving a few bucks isn’t worth it anymore; if I want the more expensive stuff (within reason), I’m getting it.
  10. Explain how I prioritize my life. I don’t ask why you have kids, do I?
  11. Fear making mistakes in my business. I need to be a bit more carefree this year and allow myself to take bigger risks, for sometimes bigger rewards.
  12. Feel bad about healthy boundaries.
  13. Have too many eyeshadow palettes. Is that even a thing?
  14. Follow up or repeat myself. If you don’t get it done or do what you said you would; that’s on you, bucko.
  15. Feel bad for only getting Biscoff cookies on all my Delta flights. Are there other options? I have no idea, I just shout YES when cookies are offered.
  16. Stay silent when someone says racist shit.
  17. Engage with materialistic gossip.
  18. Make excuses for not practicing yoga. It’s okay to skip from time to time because, you know, life. But, I need to remind myself it’s a mindful practice more than anything and my brain and heart are so grateful when I do it regularly.
  19. Judge myself when I feel overwhelmed. It’s okay!
  20. Do tomorrow’s dishes. Figuratively, of course. Because, you can’t and worrying about something and trying to fix something right now that can’t be, doesn’t help.
  21. Poke fun at anyone else inching close to 40. We’re all in this together, guys.
  22. Worry about every pound lost or gained. I’ve lost 15-ish pounds in the last year. It’s felt both impossible and easy. I love working out, maybe not beforehand when I need to get up and do it, but I love how I feel when I do. I needed to focus on my why, which was for my joints to hurt less while working out as I lose weight, which they have a bit. Health is beyond a number on the scale. Mindfully eating and working out without pain are my main goals.
  23. Put such stringent terms on the next 6 months that I don’t enjoy it. Our life will be changing drastically as his ER residency ends. I like to have everything planned. That’s not going to happen though. I need to just go with it and know things will work out!
  24. Apologize for my territorial but loving ginger kitty. He’s a grumpy old man, that loves me and the hubster so much. He gets scared (and mad) around people that are not us. Sensitive gingers.
  25. Concern myself with other people’s issues unless they bring it up to me.
  26. Be so consumed with the end game or being on-brand for my biz, that I don’t experiment more with it.
  27. Feel selfish for wanting to go after my dreams.
  28. Regret the time I spend painting or drawing. More of this please!
  29. Wait for loved ones to be more involved. Lower those expectations, girl.
  30. Wear heels taller than 4 inches.
  31. Be superwoman. She’s a character, not real life.
  32. Be ashamed of my love for seltzer water.
  33. Not watch kids’ movies because I’m not a kid. (I wrote this while watching Lion King on my 6.5 hour flight.)
  34. Have to worry about another year of residency!
  35. Think I need to visit every country in the world instead of revisiting the ones I love. I’m looking at you, Japan, England and Cambodia.
  36. Force things that don’t feel right. Friendships, business deals, see-through yoga pants.
  37. Hold onto relationships that have effectively been ghosted. I sincerely wish them well and will always look fondly back on those fun memories.
  38. Defend loving the Spice Girls.
  39. Be afraid of the big 3-9. I’VE GOT THIS, BOO.

Filed Under: Musings

What a Social Media Break Feels Like

January 9, 2020 By Caroline Peterson

Spoiler Alert: It feels a lot like sitting in an outdoor tub in Carmel Valley, CA

Fallen down the social media rabbit hole again? Did you get here from Facebook? Instagram? Twitter?

It’s okay. Welcome.

The first part of recovery is admitting you have a problem.

Hi, my name is Caroline Peterson and I spend too much time on social media.

Hey, Caroline.

To be fair, part of my job as a copywriter involves writing and managing social media for some of my clients, so I do have a legitimate reason. But, we’ll get into that later as I don’t want it to come across as an excuse while we’re all holding hands singing Kumbaya.

Depending on who you ask, social media is an evil entity dividing us daily or the ultimate unifier, connecting us casually.

It can bring us hard-hitting news or our 5-year-old newphew’s birthday party pictures. It can make us laugh with silly memes or create catty misunderstandings fueling gossip. We all know how quickly the judgments start and BAM—the hide, block or delete button is used. Social media can be brutal! Heck, my own mother even deleted me on Facebook 8 years ago. #truestory

In November, I participated in #NaNoWriMo. For those short on time to google that bizarro hashtag, it stands for National Novel Writing Month. It’s when us writers buckle down and bust out 50,000+ words in one month. That’s roughly 1,700 words a day. (Or 4-5 pages a day for those stuck in permanent term-paper PTSD.) It’s a lot, but that’s the point. When you’re a writer, you can often find yourself putting your own creative work to the bottom of the To Do List because, there is always more to do, more to write, more to research.

But, sit down for one month and focus on getting one project finished? That seems more doable.

Cue to me getting a backlog of blog posts written for this site. I had 10+ drafts started and 40+ ideas on my Blog Posts Google doc. While this month is traditionally used for novels, I’m part of an awesome co-writing group that suggested we use the time to focus on our own creative writing and businesses. At the time while writing this blog post, I currently have over 10,000 words written. YEE-HAW.

This meant I needed to cut out the distractions in my life to be able to spend an hour or two every single day to sit down (or stand pantsless) and write, while still staying on top of my other work priorities.

  • I pushed the tequila in the back of the cabinet.
  • I painted and redecorated my office to make it a more comfortable place to sit for hours at a time. (Something I should have done when I moved in, but it got shoved to a lesser priority behind bleaching the bathroom walls and floors until they sparkled. Swear, I’m not a serial killer.)
  • I adjusted my shared schedule to block off writing hours so clients could only book meetings in the afternoons.
  • I bought 5 candles from Bath & Body Works.

Then,

I took a break from social media for the month of November.

Now, this isn’t the first time I’ve stepped away from social media. A few years ago, I left Facebook and deactiveated my profile for nearly 6 months to get away from the constant comparison machine. I did this way before it was the cool thing it is to do now. #trendsetter

But this time, I wanted to prepare myself properly to step away from the social media monsters while still maintaining my access to them for my clients. Talk about having a constant temptress to seduce me back into the beast. But this wasn’t as hard as I thought, as you’ll see below.

In the last week of October, I set up a couple weeks of social media posts for Not Your Average Gal and scheduled them out, promising to only check in on them to reply to comments and interact as needed. I let followers know I was peacing out for the month so they were aware I wouldn’t see Jimmy’s 5th birthday party pics or see the invite to another event, at least not right away.

As November rolled around, the first thing I felt was that a weight had been lifted.

I felt relief.

Pure and utter relief.

I knew I spent an unproductive amount of time scrolling, clicking and posting. I knew when I went to check on my notifications that I fell down the rabbit hole of scrolling “just to see” what else was going on. That often turned into laughing at memes, rolling my eyes at cliché quotes and feeling pangs of jealous at those beach vacation pictures. Now? I didn’t have to see any of it.

As the days and weeks went on, I noticed more connection.

I felt connected.

Connected in a different way.

Connected in the moment.

My mind was free from thinking about posting statuses or photos. Which is something you don’t realize you think about a lot, until the avenue in which you’re expressing those things, is closed.

As a writer, throughout my day, lots of entertaining thoughts come to my head about something I’ve seen or experienced. Typically the first avenue I take, if it’s hilarious (and c’mon, it usually is) is to post it as a status on Facebook or caption on Instagram.

I still had those thoughts run though my head, but I now had the headspace to use those creative juices for something more focused. More focused in the moment. I realized how fleeting those thoughts were as they came and went. Even if I had posted them, it would be for what? A few more likes and followers? Sure! But, for November, it wasn’t worth it.

And as I’ve discovered, it isn’t as worth in the long haul either.

I felt relaxed.

Relaxed enough to actually finish a book, two in fact! Instead of scrolling at bedtime, I read one of those things that has a creaky spine, smooth pages and, as I found, sits perfectly against your sleeping husband, freeing your hands for chips and guac. What you don’t eat chips and guac in bed? HOW PRIMITIVE.

Not looking through the comparison machine allowed me to enter some fun fictional worlds of novels that I’ve been missing out on for…well the less fun, but also fictional world of Facebook.

I felt enjoyment from detouring from the rat race.

I did a lot of cool things in November! I was a model in a photoshoot. I danced and sang on stage in a number for my late theatre director. I set up my first Black Friday sale for my business. I redesigned my office. I went to a Celine Dion concert. I drove through the first blizzard of winter like I grew up here or something.

ALL of this, I would have posted. All of it. I think about how much time that would have taken away from me and it legit makes me sick.

Why do we feel that pull to post it? Because we want to share the cool things we’re doing of course! That’s a super natural thing. But at what point does the sharing turn from show-and-tell into show-and-like. If no one sees any of these cool things (or hits like) did they ever happen?

It’s a fine balance, but one I’m willing to walk a little bit tighter.

I felt out of the loop.

From mundane meeting event invites to the more life altering news of a friend’s parent passing away, I missed some key information. Since I was still logging into Facebook and Instagram for work, I did see some notifications, but to prevent the slow seduction of checking my newsfeed I used an extension to get rid of my feed. (You can find my tips about this below.)

So I missed some things, but honestly? Not the important stuff. I helped to take care of my friend post-op and talked with her for hours. All that stuff that she posted on Facebook, I’m assuming she filled me in on during our chats. I went to grab a coffee with a friend and she told me about her father-in-law passing away. Maybe she had discussed it on social media channels, but she was telling me face to face, which gave me an opportunity to not only tell her how sorry I was, but show her.


This month gave me the opportunity to reevaluate how I spend my time and what is worth my time. I truly believe social media, when used well, is great for connection. It certainly helped me survive the often lonely journey of med school to residency.

I don’t see myself deactivating or deleting my profiles any time soon. But I do see some serious benefits to continuing to use the techniques and tools I used to keep the social media beasts at bay.

The Tools I Used:

  • Freedom
  • Newsfeed Eradicator
  • Took Facebook app off my phone

Have you ever taken a break? Would you?

Filed Under: Copywriting

It’s Okay to be Scared. A Look at 2020 and Beyond.

December 29, 2019 By Caroline Peterson

Have you seen it? The abundance of posts chanting: O-M-G It's the Last Days of the Decade. The ones that humblebrag neatly discuss the intricacies of achievements over the course of the last decade.

This won't be one of them.

Truth be told, I didn't even put it together that 2019 was the last year of the decade. Mostly, because after the millennium, time ceased to exist or plunged into a twilight-zone-like vortex and basically, 30 years ago is still 1970, right?

I've done the yearly wrap-up posts that aren't just the sugar-coated versions of life and ones that tip my hat at the things I've accomplished. Frankly, I'm quite proud of everything I've achieved in 2019. I got through one of the hardest years of the hubster's ER residency (while still allowing each other to come to bed) and even with the ebbs and flows of a new copywriting business, still posted more sales at the end of the year than the year before. It would be worth a post to celebrate. 

But, with the dawn of a new decade upon us, it may be nice to gently nudge and dive into what many of us may be feeling:
Anxious. Apprehensive. Apathetic. 

A lot has changed in 10 years!

A Decade of Learning

Being scared doesn't mean it's not worth it.

A new decade brings on some excitement about the endless possibilities out there. But, with that, comes its unrelenting, ugly twin: fear. It starts with the seeds of self-doubt and “what ifs,” then morphs into, “I'll do it someday,” and soon, and you find yourself in 2029, wondering where the decade went. Ack. We've all been there. Don't let those fearless Instagrammers fool you. 

Some of the best decisions I've ever made started with a knot in my stomach. The kind that you get when you're at the tip-top of a rollercoaster, just about to barrel down to earth in a rush to the senses. From hopping on a flight to Hong Kong alone, to leaving the comfy cushion of the corporate world, I'm so, so glad I felt the fear and did it anyway. Or at least I remind myself of this while burning the midnight oil, pantsless, figuring out my marketing strategy to get more clients in 2020.

Being scared is okay. It means you're alive!  Feel it. Revel in it. Take it out for a dinner date. Just don't let it make its way into your home, sleeping comfortably in the back of your mind. Let it remind you that some decisions, however small, can be scary because they’re uncertain. That doesn't mean they’re unachievable.

It's okay to be scared. But you have to show up, open up, love fully, fall down, make mistakes, learn, grow and do it all again.

Grow from experience, not bitterness.

One of the ugliest personality traits is cynicism. The kind that scoffs at any goodness in this world. The type that sneers when something goes astray that it was bound to anyway because, of course! Anyone been there? Certainly not me. <looks around to see if anyone believes her>

Growth occurs from planting your roots in the notion that you'll be okay. It may not be what you envisioned. You may not be where you want to be in this current situation. But you'll be okay. I had to trust that notion when I made the 1400-mile move back to Michigan. I would be okay. I am okay. You'll adjust your sails and in doing so, you may find yourself right where you worked towards being someday. 

Growth isn't bitterly blaming your ex for every wrong in your life, while simultaneously proclaiming you've learned so much from that jerk and are hashtag blessed. 

Boundaries are your new BFF.

One of the hardest decisions we can make is figuratively drawing a line in the sand that the way things have been going, can no longer happen on our watch anymore. Not if we want healthy, respectful, nurturing relationships in our lives. Often that looks a lot like setting boundaries with family and friends. 

It can feel so icky at first because we're told otherwise. It's a right of passage really, a family subtlety that seeps into our mindset shouting: no matter what I do, what I say or how I treat you, you have to put up with me because, family! (Many fun people with PhDs will call this abuse.)

The backlash can be big or passive aggressively comedic. I've personally experienced over-the-top, manipulative guilt trips that many Psychology 101 professors would enjoy—and are free to use! Hold true to who you are, what values you find important and know that the boundaries you've set will only be tough for the people who benefited from you not having some in the first place.

Kindness and patience…are qualities not to be trifled with.

Some of the kindest people in the universe are also badasses. Oprah. Ellen. The librarian who fixed my $.50 overdue fee by simply clicking a button. They are all kind souls, but ones I wouldn't mess with when it comes to disrespectfully taking advantage of a situation.

Often when we think of a love that is patient and kind, we imagine a calm world filled with thoughtfulness and ease in decisions. What is hard to wrap our heads around is we can be both patient and kind, while also not allowing ourselves to be unseen or disrespected. 

I once told my sister, I now look for new friends based on how I think they'd react in a public situation where someone was being bullied or humiliated or disrespected. Would my friends stand up and take the person under her wing? Would she yell that you can’t speak to someone like that? Would she stand idly by too nervous to ruffle feathers? Which option would be the kindest to the person being attacked? 

I want to surround myself with kind, patient, feather-rufflers. 

Your voice matters. You matter. You are enough.

A shoutout to all the men and women who aren't feeling okay, but still get up every day and refuse to quit. You are the real show stoppers. We all yearn for connection. We all want to know we belong and matter. That can be incredibly hard on the tough days or if you're surrounded by a not-quite-right-for-you squad.

If there's anything I've taken away from the last 10 years, it's this: I am enough.

If I'm totally alone. I'm enough.

If I'm laughed at. I'm enough.

If I'm sporting my *NSYNC t-shirt, dancing in my underwear in the kitchen. I'm enough.

You matter. Your little beating heart provides something in this world that others can't possibly master: you.

How awesome. You, that is. 


As this decade winds down and a new one begins and we starts to access what they heck just happened, take heed in knowing others feel the same way. Taking note of the things you would change isn't about living with regret. It's about being an accountable adult and knowing you want to do better, be better. How beautiful is that?! 

Side note: I despise when people say they live with no regrets. Frankly, it seems like quite a simplistic, caveman-eque way to live, never having the balls to look back and think, yeah, I could have done that more eloquently. That, that right there, takes some self-reflection. Acknowledging a regret and wanting better. The YOLO, no regerts, lifestyle is nice if you live in a vacuum.

Just think of how much you've experienced—for better or worse—and be proud of where you are, in this moment. <insert internet high-five here> You don't need to measure your failures and successes by noting how far you've come; you're HERE. Right now. 

That's enough. 

You are enough.

Here's to a scary and exhilarating 2020 and another decade of you. 

Filed Under: Musings, Travel

You and Your Holiday Strategy Slacking

November 8, 2019 By Caroline Peterson

London is my absolute favorite during the holidays.

I’ve got you covered if you’re slacking in the holiday cheer department. In fact, I’m sort of an expert at that.

When working at an ad agency, the holidays were my least favorite time of year. Now before you put on your judgey-pants and start calling me Ebenzer Peterson, there are a few good reasons for this:

  1. The holidays typically start in July or August. As in, we start developing campaigns, strategies and determine the products or offers we’re going to be pushing for that joyous season. In August. Then this merry and bright bullshit continues for 5 months. By the time the holidays actually come, I’m tossing presents to people around the tree telling them to open the gifts quickly so I can get back to my tequila. (Okay, now you can call me Ebenzer Peterson.)
  2. Holiday campaigns can often be a bit generic. The campaigns I’ve worked on in the past needed to appeal to broad audiences. That meant, as a copywriter, I had to keep the messaging pretty ho-hum to get approved from brand managers who had directives from their big wigs. It often meant pulling from a cheesy arsenal of words and phrases like: the reason for the season, peace & joy, season’s greetings, good tidings and happy new year. Do any of those inspire you? Are any of those memorable? Of course-freakin’-not.

Now, give me ample creative leverage to make pop-culture references and/or poke fun at uncomfortable family gatherings during the holidays and I’ll give you a relatable, memorable message for your campaign.

But, I digress…

For many small businesses, the holidays are the best time of year for revenue. People are feeling all cheery and bright and generous and shit. I’m really killing it with this holiday magic, huh? But, jokes aside, having a holiday strategy, even one that may seem lame or basic, can really help to create lines that help your bottom line. See what I did there?

While we may be pushing it for time left before the holidays hit us with a glitter storm of peace and love, as small businesses we always seem to have limited time, so this ain’t nothing new! Yes, you’re behind if you haven’t started. But there’s still time to do something, even if it’s not an over-the-top idea that was nailed down and created 6 months ago. A published good enough idea is better than one sitting in your drafts folder.

So, let’s put on our big-kid holiday britches and get to it with some basic tasks to kill it with your holiday strategy.

Determine your offers

Black Friday. Cyber Monday. Tequila Tuesday. What do you plan to offer your customers to make them feel like they are getting a deal, something exclusives for being a shopper? This does not mean slashing your prices, necessarily! This could look like 2-for-1 deals, an extra month free for a subscription, a holiday gift guide or even some free samples.

Right now, I’m developing my Black Friday savings for my biznass. Yup, even copywriters get in on this holiday schtuff. For me and my business, it makes sense to offer discounts on services, as my product—writing copy that makes you cry or laugh or snort-laugh (my favorite)—is a service.

Take a second to think about what works best for you and your biz.

Determine your budget

You don’t need to spend a lot. FULL STOP.

In fact, simply promoting on social or your blog or a sweet in-store sign you threw together in Canva, can easily serve as your minimal holiday budget. If you do want to spend a pretty-penny, make sure you’re getting a ROI that makes sense. For me, that looks a lot like, “If I offer X discount, on a service, how much time can I spend on completing this project AND advertise for it to still make it profitable.” Keep in mind, gaining a new client or customer after the holidays, by offering discounted products during the holidays can also improve your ROI.

Now is the time to impress! Don your favorite pearls, put on those fancy pants and use your favorite matte lipstick that doesn’t betray you by making itself comfortable, you know, all over your front two teeth.

Determine you’re different

What makes you, your brand, your products, your company or your services different than the other bazillion brands gunning for holiday customers?

Walmart is known for their bottom dollar prices. Is it often chintzy, single use plastic crap? Yes. But, people go there because they know they can get a deal. That’s their differentiating factor: discounts.

Are your customers getting more than a cheap trinket? Are they getting a heart-felt thank you card sent after purchase? How about a follow-up a week later with a special discount to use in 2020? What will make them feel like you’re different than the rest?

For me, my clients know that they’ll be getting copy packed with a personal punch to the marketing keister. And maybe I’m a little swear-y. People remember that shit.

Determine your messaging

Create a brand-specific holiday hashtag. Update your company tagline to give it some fun, holiday slogan flare. Figure out how you would want your ideal customer to describe your company. Would they use the words: fun and innovative or classic and buttoned-up?

From there, you can figure out your holiday messaging. It could look like something quintessentially festive or something more memorable that may even make Prancer blush.

“Our delightful chocolate truffles are the perfect jingle balls to deck your halls.”

This is where hiring an expert copywriter comes in handy. <side eye>

Hire a Holiday Helper

(it’s me!)

Work with me

Determine your deadline

Pro Tip: This should be soon!

I’m wrapping up finalizing my Black Friday offer by the end of this weekend. That gives me 3 weeks to work on my sales page and the email I’ll be sending to customers. Keep in mind, my clientele and services are particular. Particularly awesome.

If you have a store-front or sell items online, hopefully you’ve got a good idea of when you’d like to have everything set.

Then, stick to it!

The best part of having a basic strategy—besides the fist-pumping feeling of holiday accomplishments—is you actually get to enjoy the holidays! This will set you on a sort of auto-pilot to get you through the next few weeks allowing ample time to chug egg nog like a drunken reindeer who has absolutely HAD IT with Santa’s antics about wanting to hit every freakin’ house in the whole-wide-world before dawn.

Something about spreading holiday cheer to the kids, he says.

Want to be added to my email list to get the discount goodies? (I don’t spam. I don’t know how one spams. Does it actually involve SPAM? Because I heard if you throw a little salt and pepper on it, toss it on a pan with olive oil, it’s quite good.)

Filed Under: Copywriting, Soapbox

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